The perfect match !!!

This blog is the consequence of a long conversation I had with two of my friends who represented a larger community, the guys vs me..!!! And the topic of conversation -> "What exactly do we look for in other sex?". Oh yes can I see that "now common don't u know what we look for" expression --> To make perspectives clearer, we were talking about life partners..!!! Now do I hear a "Okay jokes apart, get to business"..!!! That is probably the difference, this is the only question that probably gets the undivided attention of any a 24-26...(+/- 2)..!!! All of a sudden he/she starts thinking about looking at the other sex with a different eye, with a new perspective, a 'will you be my perfect match' look ?

Probably each of us know what we seek, but there would be very few who can say for sure, that they know how to go about it. Is it an easy task..?? Most of us leave it to our parents. After all, they brought us up, they know whats best for us. BUT there are a few amongst us who consider it worthwhile to play an active part, when the most significant decision of our life is taken. And lastly comes the category of bold, proactive people who are confident, that if there's anybody in this world who can find "my perfect match --> its ME"!!! Somehow end of the day all of us fall into one of these three categories !!!

Heart in heart, each of us are equaly concerned, and would like to ensure that we get the person of our dreams, someone who will not only be 'the best', but also ensure that he/she brings out the best in us!!! It might not be easy to put in metrices n quantifiers and probably this is one of the most abstract things that any human being would talk about and "quantifying requirements" (every software engg knows what I'm talking about) is simply impossible !!! :)

So, how do you go about the hunt? The first approach : Simply sit down n wait, following the DTPH funda "Someone somewhere is made for me ...and when he or she is around, you'll automatically feel the vibes"...Wow!!!That seems cool !!! If that were the case then there should be no broken hearts and no love failures, after all the vibes are two sided..!!! You got to be really fortunate for it to work both ways, and I guess that is rare...in fact I guess it works for very few..!!! So, what next, tell papa mamma....that "hey I really can't handle this mess...!!! U've ensured that I get 'the best' all my life, so here I hand you the most important decision of my life..Find me my bride/groom"...Done..!!! Sit back and RELAX!!! They do all the work, hand in a "chat ID" n say "beta, I've done all the ground work, now you check out your compatability and in one month, if you both find it okay....then 'chat mangni pat biyah'", and if things don't exactly work out between the two, then, we go about the whole process again!!! Now a "yes/no" in a months time is not all that easy, or is it?? Making the most important decision of your life in a month, over mails/chat??? Bill Gates has done quite a lot to ensure that young couples have their share of fun...But !!! Do most people succeed in makung the right decision ????

And then comes the final option, I look out on my own for the man/woman of my dreams!!! Now how easy is that. Along with the decision comes a big responsibility, THE COMPLETE responsibility of your life. This time no parents, no mama mami, no relatives, nobody will take ownership of your decision!!! You need the strength of charatcter and the maturity to see the obvious and probably the not so obvious traits in your counterpart. Probably people say 'love is blind'...but complete blindness can lead to long term short sightedness !!!So, probably a little bit of foresight and vision and sensible thought might go a long way in ensuring, that your "search result" perfectly matches your "search string"..!!! :) And finally you need a lot of conviction in your decision before you say "I do"..!!!! ....

Ofcourse as the song goes....

I just want a man with a real soul
Who wants equality and not control

I just want a man good and smart
A really sharp mind and a very big heart

I just want a man not scared to weep
To hold me close when we’re asleep

Ohhh yeah….

I  just want a man who loves romance
Who’ll clear the floor and ask me to dance

I  just want a man who likes to sing
Makes up words when I play the strings

I just want a man who gives some back
Who talks to me and not my rack

I just want a man who likes to cook
To read my dreams and share my books

I just want man whose spirit is free
To hold my hand, walk the world with me 

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