Okay...if u are a guy and still wanna read this blog, please go ahead. I really want you to know what made me write this, n hey girls, I'm sure u agree with me on this issue!!! Exceptions exists, in fact there are quite a few people around who do respect or atleast pretend to respect all women, but then given a chance I would love to record a conversation, involving the same chap, in a no-female room !!! Atleast my experience proves that there are very few guys who can respect all women, in all forms, at all times, and that reflects a lot about the guy!!! A few harmless comments, a few silly jokes are absolutely okay, but the inherent respect in a guys mind for every woman is very important, and I believe thats one of the most important traits is a 'good' man!!!
In the higher strata, its the comments and respect factor, in the lower strata, you can forget the external polish..!!! Its either too much of generosity and respect or absolute ruthless behaviour!!!
What makes me write all this. A simple incident in an auto! As usual, at the end of the day I waited on the busy road for an autorishaw, and let me tell you, convincing at auto driver to come to a place where the auto fare comes to at the max 20 is a BIG task!!! Fortunately today the second auto that stopped agreed to come...He said "Madam! Banjara Hills raste se chalenge!!!"...My major constrain was to reach home and a 2 Rupee extra, or a small deviation was absolutely okay!!!
I said fine, and trust me for the next 15 minutes I prayed to god, made all possible confessions, thought of all the sins I had committed, all promises I hadn't kept, any curses I got!!! All of a sudden a life insurance policy seemed very important to me!!! There's a very common trait in autodrivers that I have observed, those who sit with a right or a left tilt (in most cases they are unusually thin) are VERY rash drivers !!! Every 5 seconds he screeched to a halt, millimeters close to a living or non living object (that was immaterial to him)!!!
I urged him to slow down, but this man never cared to listen, he even refused to stop the vehicle!!! And finally after a complete round trip when I reached my destination he says, " Madam aapke saath ghoomne mein bahut maza aaya, kal milenge"..!!! All I could say was "Mad or what". (And I'm sure he never understood)!!! What could I do at that point of time?
If every girl in India is asked to write all instances of harrasment (mental/physical), she can come up with atleast 10 !!! These instances never come out, you tell mama and she gets tensed, you tell papa and he never lets u travel alone the next day!!! What can you do? Either u scream at the guy then and there, and console your ego or sometimes just consider it as just another part of life and simply forget it!!!
When can I be rest assured that I can walk all alone on the road at 10 in the night and be assured of reaching home safe..?? Will such a world ever exist???
In the higher strata, its the comments and respect factor, in the lower strata, you can forget the external polish..!!! Its either too much of generosity and respect or absolute ruthless behaviour!!!
What makes me write all this. A simple incident in an auto! As usual, at the end of the day I waited on the busy road for an autorishaw, and let me tell you, convincing at auto driver to come to a place where the auto fare comes to at the max 20 is a BIG task!!! Fortunately today the second auto that stopped agreed to come...He said "Madam! Banjara Hills raste se chalenge!!!"...My major constrain was to reach home and a 2 Rupee extra, or a small deviation was absolutely okay!!!
I said fine, and trust me for the next 15 minutes I prayed to god, made all possible confessions, thought of all the sins I had committed, all promises I hadn't kept, any curses I got!!! All of a sudden a life insurance policy seemed very important to me!!! There's a very common trait in autodrivers that I have observed, those who sit with a right or a left tilt (in most cases they are unusually thin) are VERY rash drivers !!! Every 5 seconds he screeched to a halt, millimeters close to a living or non living object (that was immaterial to him)!!!
I urged him to slow down, but this man never cared to listen, he even refused to stop the vehicle!!! And finally after a complete round trip when I reached my destination he says, " Madam aapke saath ghoomne mein bahut maza aaya, kal milenge"..!!! All I could say was "Mad or what". (And I'm sure he never understood)!!! What could I do at that point of time?
If every girl in India is asked to write all instances of harrasment (mental/physical), she can come up with atleast 10 !!! These instances never come out, you tell mama and she gets tensed, you tell papa and he never lets u travel alone the next day!!! What can you do? Either u scream at the guy then and there, and console your ego or sometimes just consider it as just another part of life and simply forget it!!!
When can I be rest assured that I can walk all alone on the road at 10 in the night and be assured of reaching home safe..?? Will such a world ever exist???
3 comments:
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Hey...guess I have made a clear demarcation between the different classes of people and their behaviour !!!
Ofcourse exceptions exist and by 'all'--> I am just emphasising on EVERY man I come across in everyday life and not a small class of "dignified gentlemen"..:))
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Hey I was not supporting the ppl who do not respect girls...juss an observation I came across as to why guys fall for gals so often n not the other way round!
Is tht justified...no...humans have brains also with biology! n tht does not give us such crap privilage of disrespecting women! as someone said abt natural traits..."its biological not to brush every morning and deface in our pants but conditioning makes it otherwise"...very true!
well yeah very often guys do end up cracking jokes abt women which are in bad taste...just that not all guys...
n then juss being a woman does not mean she deserves respect...would u respect all guys??!! no...bcoz there r bad guys too...similarly there for the women I know...I respect some...n for the others....I simply do not care!
respect is not anyone's birthright...be it a man or woman...they got to earn it!
N yeah for ur question "When will 'all' men learn to respect women !!!!???!!!" ...the answer is "never"...there r 700 crore ppl on earth n approx half of them guys...n u cannot expect them all to respect women!
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